Topic: Women Visiting Graves

Original Speaker: Shaykh Muqbil bin Hadi al-Wadi’i

Translator: Abu Fajr AbdulFattaah bin Uthman

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It is allowed for women to visit the graves. One proof is the following:

عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ مَرَّ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِامْرَأَةٍ تَبْكِي عِنْدَ قَبْرٍ فَقَالَ ‏”‏ اتَّقِي اللَّهَ وَاصْبِرِي ‏”‏‏.‏ قَالَتْ إِلَيْكَ عَنِّي، فَإِنَّكَ لَمْ تُصَبْ بِمُصِيبَتِي، وَلَمْ تَعْرِفْهُ‏.‏ فَقِيلَ لَهَا إِنَّهُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏ فَأَتَتْ باب النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَلَمْ تَجِدْ عِنْدَهُ بَوَّابِينَ فَقَالَتْ لَمْ أَعْرِفْكَ‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّمَا الصَّبْرُ عِنْدَ الصَّدْمَةِ الأُولَى ‏

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

The Prophet (ﷺ) passed by a woman who was weeping beside a grave. He told her to fear Allah and be patient. She said to him, “Go away, for you have not been afflicted with a calamity like mine.” And she did not recognize him. Then she was informed that he was the Prophet (ﷺ) . so she went to the house of the Prophet (ﷺ) and there she did not find any guard. Then she said to him, “I did not recognize you.” He said, “Verily, the patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.”

[Bukhari no. 1283]

Hafidh Ibn Hajr (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:

واستدل به على جواز زيارة القبور سواء كان الزائر رجلا أو امرأة كما تقدم

“It is used as evidence for the permissibility of visiting the graves whether the visitor is a man or woman as has preceded”

[Fathul Bari (4/26)]

Shaikh al-Albani (May Allah have mercy upon him) also mentions that women can visit the graves and brings a number of proofs and reasons in Ahkaam al-Janaaiz (pg. 229-237). He also mentions that they should not often visit the graves as that might lead to opposing the Legislation through wailing etc.

And Allah Knows Best

Translated by

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan

Ash Shaykh Muhammad Hizaam said:

“The statement of the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم


visit the graves

is general. It includes the men and the women. For that reason, Aisha رضي الله عنها understood that the concession is even for the women, so she used to visit. Also it comes in Saheeh Muslim that she said to the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم “what should I say”, meaning while visiting the grave, so he taught her the invocation. Thus this indicates upon it being legislated. Therefore the statement that it is legislated [even for the women] is most correct and it is the statement of the majority.” End translation. [Tahqeeq fathul Majeed, page 402]

As for the hadeeth of Aisha mentioned, then it is authentically reported by Al Haakim and others

that Ibn Mulaykah said that Aisha one day was coming from the graveyard so I said to her “Oh mother of the believers, did not the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم prohibit visiting the graves.”? She said “Yes. He prohibited visiting the graves, then commanded with visiting it.”

It should be mentioned though that as Imam Muqbil and others mentioned, the condition for her to visit is that she only says good and goes to remember the hereafter, not to wail and being upset, and the likes. Also there should be no free mixing and oppositions.

Ash Shaykh Yahya mentioned the narration of Umm Atiyah رضي الله عنها wherein she said:

“We were prohibited from following the funerals but it was not emphasized upon us”

[Bukhari (1278) and Muslim (938)]

Al Haafith Ibn Hajr said:

Her statement, “It was not emphasized upon us” meaning it was not emphasized upon us to leave it off like other than it from the prohibitions was emphasized upon us. Thus it is as if she said it was disliked for us to follow the funeral without it being prohibited. Al Qurtubi said, “The apparent context of the Hadeeth of Umm Atiyah is that it is a light form of prohibition, and the majority of the people of knowledge said as such” End quote.

Shaykhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyah said:

“Her intent could have been that the prohibition was not emphasized and this does not negate that it is prohibited. It could have also been that she thought that it is not a prohibition. However, the evidence is in the statement of the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم, not in the thoughts of other than him. End from Majmoo al Fataawaa 24/355.” End translation. [كشف الوعثاء, page 29]

Translated by

Majid Jawed Al-Afghanee
Abu Layl