قَــالَ الشيخ مُقْبِلِّ الْوَادِعِيِّ -رَحِمهُ الله-:
Ash Shaykh Muqbil Al Wadiee said:
”… رُبَّ دَعوةٍ مِن الوالدين تُدمّرُ الشّخص ، ويخسر حياته وآخرته بسبب دعوة أمه أو بسبب دعوة أبيه“.
Perhaps an invocation from one’s parents may destroy the individual and put his life and hereafter to loss due to the invocation of his mom or his father (against him)
[ كتاب الرحلة الأخيرة (٢٤٠) ]
Allahul Mustaan, May Allah make us righteous children towards our parents and give us righteous children.
Shaykh Yahya once mentioned a story of a man who used to beat his dad and throw him to the door. When the man had his own children his child would beat him until the streets.
And I know a man who says:
“By Allah, my mom used to make Dua against me that my children treat me worse than the way I treated her and now I am going through it”
Majid Jawed Al-Afghanee
Some of the scholars mention
الجزاء من جنس العمل كما تدين تدان
Basically meaning you get treated in accordance to the actions you do. So, the way you deal with others is the same way you will be dealt with
And from the evidences in the Sunnah
Abu Huraira reported that Juraij was one who was devoted to (prayer) in the temple. His mother came to him. Humaid said that Abu Rafi’ demonstrated before us like the demonstration made by abu Huraira to whom Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) had demonstrated as his mother called him placing her palms upon the eyebrows and lifting her head for calling him and said:
Juraij, it is your mother, so talk to her. She found him at that time absorbed in prayer, so he said (to himself): O Lord, my mother (is calling me) (whereas I am absorbed) in my prayer. He opted for prayer. She (his mother) went back, then came again for the second time and said: O Juraij, it is your mother (calling you), so talk to me. He said: O Allah. there is my mother also and my prayer, and he opted for prayer. She said: O Allah, this Juraij is my son. I pray to talk to him but he refuses to talk to me. O Allah, don’t bring death to him unless he has seen the prostitutes, and had she invoked the curse upon him (from the heart of her heart) he would have been involved in some turmoil. There was a shepherd living near by his temple (the temple where Juraij was engaged in prayer). It so happened that a woman of that village came there and that shepherd committed fornication with her and she became pregnant and gave birth to a child. It was said to her: Whose child is this? She said: He is the child of one who is living in this temple. So there came persons with hatchets and spades. They called Juraij. He was absorbed in prayer and he did not talk to them and they were about to demolish that temple that he saw them and then came to them and they said: Ask her (this woman) what she says. He smiled and then touched the head of the child and said: Who is your father? He (the child) said: My father is the shepherd of the sheep, and when they heard this, they said: We are prepared to rebuild with gold and silver what we have demolished from your temple. He said: No, rebuild it with clay as it had been before. He then went up (to his room and absorbed himself in prayer).
[Saheeh Muslim as seen here]
Majid Jawed Al-Afghanee